Forgiveness

When we seek God’s forgiveness, we receive it. It is there simply for the asking. Once we do, we must face a difficult reality. Now we too are called to forgive.

I have no illusions about the fact that this part is not easy. I found it one of the most challenging components of my new Christian life. But there is no side-stepping this one.

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“For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” (Matthew 6:14-15)

For the past 2 weeks, we’ve been discussing our role in both loving God and loving our fellow man. This week, we are looking at a practical outworking of that love.

We cannot go to God and seek His forgiveness while withholding it from others in our lives any more than we can accept God’s love while not sharing it with others. Both gifts are to be passed on.

The now cliché John 3:16 has gone on to become something of a logo for Christianity: “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should https://savedforlater.org/forgiveness/not perish but have eternal life.”

When we consider God’s loving act which sits at the heart of the Christian faith, we must recognize it as an act of love by way of forgiveness.

This act of atonement (or righting of a wrong) was the action needed for us to be forgiven of our sins – and therefore made righteous – so that we can spend eternity in the presence of the Father without burning up the way unforgiven sin would.

Now we are free.

Once we are freed, we are then to pass on that freedom (Ephesians 4:32); not just from those who have apologized – those ones are kind of easy by comparison. We are called to forgive anyone who has done wrong in our eyes, regardless of whether they have apologized or not. This is part of the response of the born-again Christian. This is among the highest duties of our new selves.

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This blog stresses the importance of reading and learning the Bible in order that you may hear all that God has to say to us. Bible study as a first step of becoming Christian is https://savedforlater.org/forgiveness/just that – a first step.

Beyond our listening to what God has to say to us, God also desires to hear back from us; to hear our part of the conversation. That is called prayer.

Though prayer is often not easy – especially to a new believer – coming to God with our offers of forgiveness for those that we feel have wronged us is a pretty good conversation to start with in case you are ever looking for ideas.

It is often unlikely that we will ever have an opportunity to speak directly with many of the people we need to forgive. If we tell God, however, our hearts can still be changed.

It wasn’t until I could hand my ledger over to God with the full faith that He would settle that debt and free me from my need to collect that I was actually forgiving others. This required much prayer.

Ironically, God has structured us in such a way that it is actually we that are freed when we forgive. Though there is freedom in God’s forgiveness, our freedom is compounded when we forgive others, even if we can never tell them.

“…and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.” (Matthew 6:12)

In the Lord’s Prayer, Jesus taught (us and) His disciples how to pray. Within the Lord’s Prayer, we go to God for forgiveness. But leave it to Jesus to slip in His lesson within our petition:

Dear God, please forgive me for what I have done wrong; my debts, my sins, my trespasses (pause for effect) while I also forgive those that have done wrong to me.

Funny thing – as a Catholic kid, I said that prayer a bazillion times. It never occurred to me to forgive anyone though. I guess it wasn’t my time yet.

In the Parable of the Unforgiving Servant, Jesus told of a king who decided to call in his debts. He came across a servant from whom he was owed a great sum that the https://savedforlater.org/forgiveness/servant could never repay. Upon the king’s imposition of a penalty for repayment, the servant begged the king for more time. The king instead extended his grace to the servant and forgave the debt and freed him.

The newly-freed servant then sought repayment from one of his peers by choking him and demanding he repay him. Though the servant’s debtor also pleaded for more time, he refused and imprisoned him.

When the king learned of this, he asked the servant why he did not forgive his debtor the way the king had forgiven him. In anger, the king reinstated the debt and had the servant imprisoned (Matthew 18:23-34).

“So also my heavenly Father will do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother from your heart.” (Matthew 18:35)

In the verse above, Jesus made clear that God will not forgive your debt to Him if (beware of the if’s) you do not also forgive.

If I have not yet succeeded in convincing you of a good reason to read the entire Bible on your own, then I pray I do so now:

  • God forgives
  • we accept His forgiveness
  • but in so doing we enter into an agreement to respond to that forgiveness in certain ways.

Scripture is replete with cautionary implications and they are not to be missed. Without the Bible, we will slip into the easy-believism of simply being saved and miss our responsibilities to respond.https://savedforlater.org/forgiveness/

Unfortunately, the average pastor out there will leave out the un-rosy portions of Scripture for fear of driving people from his congregation. This is why going to church is not enough!!! We must read the Bible for ourselves.

Again, the idea of forgiveness is a challenging one. God has forgiven every conceivable incident of sin before they had (or will) even occur(ed), and He gave His Son’s life to do so. Let’s not forget that Jesus called on God to forgive the very men that nailed Him to the cross (Luke 23:34). When God asks for it, He can fully relate.

There are no scriptural exceptions that are footnoted in this command:

  • You may have been sexually, physically, or emotionally abused as a child; possibly by a relative or loved one.
  • A child of yours may have experienced the same thing.
  • You may have been raped, beaten, maimed, or someone you love may have as well; or even killed.
  • You may have come from a dysfunctional family with an abusive parent.
  • You may have been wronged professionally or politically.
  • You may have been lied to or about.
  • Your vehicle may have been destroyed by a roadside bomb and scarred you for life
  • You may have been shot by an enemy combatant and changed forever.
  • You may have watched as your best friend died at the hands of an enemy.
  • You even have reason to need to forgive yourself.

Our temptation is to feel justified not only in not forgiving those that have wronged us, but also in hating them. This is a function of sin. This is Satan’s desired outcome.

The enemy consumes our hearts with the darkness of unforgiveness and blinds us from seeing the freedom that is in God and His forgiveness; both the forgiveness He bestows on us as well as the forgiveness He grants us to pass on to others. This is the height of the spiritual warfare that rages on in all of us.

When we turn to God and seek His forgiveness, then turn to our neighbors and our enemies and extend that same forgiveness, we are freed.

Welcome to the kingdom. now we have a choice to make:

  • We can keep our hate alive and define ourselves as victims (or even survivors) of various atrocities. This is also known as living life without Jesus.
  • We can allow God to define us as His sons and daughters, fellow heirs with His Son to His kingdom.

We can only choose the latter by giving these atrocities to God and asking Him in prayer to bear them for us, and to free us from these burdens in order that they do not consume us.

Forgiveness is not an acceptance of or agreement with wrongdoing.

Forgiveness does not even mandate that a relationship necessarily continues with those that have done wrong by you. But it does necessitate that you do not hold this crime against the criminal.

Long after our wrongdoers move on and forget about us, we can carry a burden of victimization and hatred in perpetuity. We cannot be spared this burden until we practice true forgiveness.

I have some recent experience with intentional forgiveness. To be fair, my experiences will pale in comparison to most of the examples I have listed above. They may also not measure up to the pain you are burdened with in your life, but the difficulty of this task does not negate its importance; it enhances it.

In my case, I was granted a freedom that permitted me to move forward as a better person spiritually, emotionally, and psychologically.

Admittedly, there are some things that I am still dealing with, but I am working on them. I have also spoken with people who have forgiven things that have amazed me and forced me to question whether I would possess such an ability were the same hand dealt to me.

I will tell you that in my own experience, and in all the experiences I have learned of – which are not inconsequential – I have yet to learn of a time where total biblical forgiveness did not yield to the forgiver an assurance of spiritual, emotional, and psychological wholeness and wellness.

Some, of course, took longer than others – to materialize as well as to be realized – but the end-result never varied.

They were all freed by God.

 

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5 thoughts

  1. Every point is so true. Forgiveness is hard, it is a foothold for Satan and freedom for the giver as well as the receiver…if there is one.

  2. True forgiveness is also forgetting! Satan will try to open that little window in our lives trying to remind of us if what that person(s) did to us. That’s when we have to take authority over that thought and cast it down.
    Remember “He who the Son sets free is free indeed.” Thank you Jesus

    1. Amen Linda! I once read something C.S. Lewis wrote (though it escapes me from which book it was at the moment). He said that when Jesus told Peter that we were to forgive our neighbor seventy times seven (Mt. 18:22), that He didn’t mean we were to forgive our neighbor for 70 X 7 offenses, but one offense 490 times, if that’s what it takes. We can never forgive (or forget) anything without God’s help.

      Thanks Linda!

  3. It’s so crazy how I can read or hear something that was put into my life for a reason. This really hit close to home for me. My Family is struggling to get a long after a tragedy, when we should be coming together. “For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” (Matthew 6:14-15) Is exactly what I need to share with them. I have been sitting back, waiting for words to come to mind or a way to help. Thank you Brian, I’m impressed!

    1. Hi Amy.
      Full forgiveness is not always an easy undertaking. While you may be called to share forgiveness with your family, you must also prepare your heart to forgive your family if they do not forgive each other. The most effective way to show Jesus’ teachings to others is to let them see Jesus in you.

      Also, the more we study God’s Word, the better we are guided by it. His Word is perfect, and you will notice it coming your way more often the more you set out to learn it.
      Thanks Amy.

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